Hey there, I'm Nadège (she + they pronouns please). I am a sex scholar, fiction novelist, and astrologer who helps people feel healthy and empowered in their sexuality.
In case you are wondering, my name is pronounced nah-dejj and you can thank my French parents for providing me with a name that makes absolutely no sense on paper.
On an average day, you’ll find me in my home office, ginger hair in a power ponytail, as I use my nerd powers for good.
In 2012 I arrived at Berkeley to study literature. As a lover of fantasy, my goal was to one day put my fiction novels next to names like N.K. Jemisin or Garth Nix. I still write fiction (keep your eyes peeled for my debut novel!), but when I arrived at Berkeley I was underwhelmed to find that I’d be re-reading the same authors I had in high school.
Then I had a gut reaction. I was not in the right scholarly field. From an early age, I had been facinated by sex. This blossomed into a life filled with lovers, but the truth was, I wasn’t enjoying sex. Orgasming was hard for me, plus I subconsciously believed that my job was to please the other person in bed.
So, I decided to change my academic field. In my spare time, I found myself interning with my school’s Gender Equity Resource Center. I began learning about holistic and mystic forms of sexual healing. I dove deep into feminist porn to research consent and BDSM. I even trained to be a Dominatrix when the opportunity presented itself.
I never expected to write about sex on the internet. Now, I use my knowledge to bring warmth to heavy topics.
I started my journey because I felt shame during pleasure. After ten years of healing + learning, I'm still fascinated by sex.
When I feel healthy in my sexuality, I experience more fulfilling loves and higher life satisfaction. My relationship status does not define me, I'm more creative, and I feel connected to nature + the communities that surround me.
The foundation for everything I do is shaped by the science and theology I learned at Berkeley.
My goal is to help you to make informed decisions about sex, wellness, and your sexuality. Whether you attend an event, get a "sextrology" reading, or find my words on the web, I hope you gain information that empowers you.
Let's make sexual liberation the norm in a society that profits off of shame!